The Cheating Curve

Season Two: In episode 18, Carrie couldn’t help but wonder; what constitutes as cheating? SATC took cheating to another level. Obviously as women, we know what constitutes as cheating, whether we’ve cheated on our men or they have cheated on us, I don’t have to explain what cheating is. Many people believe that cheating can only happen if that person is in a monogamous female-male relationship. However, in this particular episode, Carrie felt like she cheated on her friends with Mr. Big. We are forced to view cheating, an otherwise unacceptable behavior in a different way. Can friends cheat on friends with their boyfriends? Of course you can. If you are committed, you are guilty of abandoning your friends for your man. Don’t tell me that you have never done it. I have cheated, and I’m not afraid to admit it. When you get caught up in a new relationship, you want to spend all of your time with that person. You see your friends all the time, plus they can’t satisfy you like your man can. I say it is okay to cheat sometimes, but don’t blow off your friends all the time. If your man is a good man, secure, trusting and loving, as mine is, you should be able to spend as much time with your friends as you would like. The best thing to remember is that your friends were there for you before your new found relationship, and if they are good friends they will be there after the whole thing blows up in your face. Friends should be supportive of your choices and not make you feel like shit when you do decide to cheat.

When I first started dating my boyfriend, six years ago, I wouldn’t even think about my friends when I blew them off to be with him. He is my number one, and they needed to understand that, at least that is what I thought. But now that we have been leaving together and I see him all the time, I realize that my friends are more important to my life than ever before. My best friend is in a new relationship, and when I want to hang out, and she tells me that she is with her man, I completely understand. I can’t get mad at her for wanted to be with her boyfriend. There has to be some give in take when it comes to cheating. You should be able to let your friends know how important it is to develop your relationship, without jeopardizes your friendship. Equally important, you have got to schedule in time for your girls. Girls night out is an imperative part of being a woman. If you only stay home with your man, chances are you’ll end up resenting each other later when your friends start really bitching at you for cheating on them. In the words of my mother, Boys will come and go, but good friends are forever. Now to practice what I preach :)

The Cheating Curve originally aired July 11, 1999. For more information on the episode click on the link below:

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0698675/

Quotes from the episode:

Carrie: Someone's definition of what constitutes cheating is in direct proportion to how much they themselves want to cheat.
Miranda: That's moral relativism.
Carrie: I prefer to think of it as quantum cheating.