Have you ever had a major crush? I think everyone should have at least one crush in their lifetime. I don’t mean a crazy, psycho killer crush, like Alicia Silverstone in the movie The Crush. I mean like a cute, fun type of crush; the kind that when you hear their voice, your heart starts racing. Whenever you see them you all of sudden become a child who doesn’t know what to say and at times, when you’re in their presence, you can‘t breath. The person you have a crush on should be unattainable, and I don’t mean a celebrity. An actual person, someone who you know or have known a while, but you know a relationship couldn’t work out.
My first crush was 18 when we met and he lived with his three brothers and parents. His family lived downstairs and he lived upstairs with his older brothers. He lived in a completely different world than I did. We met because my two best friends, at the time, went to the same high school as his younger brother. One of my friends liked his brother, and somehow he and I started talking. We would spend hours on the phone. We gave each other advice on just about everything. We became very good friends.
He picked me up from school a few times, in his older brother’s Chevy Blazer, and we would just hang out at each other’s houses. When he bought his first car, a black 2000 Chevy Camaro, he came to my school to show me and drove me home in it. It was the sweetest relationship ever. We never kissed, or did anything sexual. But we definitely cared about each other. I think if we did kiss though, the universe would have exploded.
He was most definitely my first and only crush. At the time, I didn’t even know it was a crush, but it was so obvious to every one else. The other night I went out with one of my friends and she reminded me of how bad I had it for him. This one time, we were driving in his neighborhood and I begged her mom to take me to his house so I could see him. I think it was on a Saturday morning, and he wasn’t even up yet. But he came to the door, and we talked for a minute. My friend couldn’t help but fall out laughing as she was reminding me of this incident, but apparently, I fell on the grass, in his front lawn, with a huge grin on my face and said how much I loved him. Of course I don’t remember this, it was 9 ½ years ago for crying out loud.
Our friendship took a turn when I started dating # 3 – The Abuser. My crush went to high school with the Abuser, and he was just shocked that I was dating him. That should have hinted something to me…well we were still friends, and I would visit him often. Especially towards the end of my relationship with The Abuser, I would go to his house when I didn’t want to deal with my boyfriend. He never threatened to beat him up or anything like that, because I didn’t tell him all the details of our relationship. I guess I was too embarrassed to tell him the type of relationship I was in.
However when I met, # 4 – The Soulmate, we didn’t talk much after that. I don’t think he got jealous, but he seemed happy for me. Last I heard was that he was moving in with his girlfriend and that was 3 years ago. I wonder how many people end up having a serious relationship with their crush. Although I really liked him, it was only a crush. I learned to be patient when talking to him, because I was so young and I really wanted to develop a relationship. The more we talked, the more we became friends and the chance of us ever having anything serious quickly escaped my mind. I think if we dated, our relationship would have ended very soon. I didn’t realize that even though we clicked as friends, there was no way we could have dated. He was too selfish, he was too flashy, he was way too materialistic for me. I think that people have crushes for a reason. We somehow are attracted to people who we would never date. That is my firm definition of having a crush on someone. There is always a physical attraction, because that is only natural, we are very visual creatures, but a crush should remain just a crush and nothing more. I mean seriously, what do you think all the women in the world would do if they could actually date Johnny Depp or Brad Pitt? Or for men,
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