Why do women have such a bad reputation with killing men’s dreams? Just let them be! Every single guy I know has some sort of dream in their lives, and it seems that either their women or girlfriends crush their dreams. I have some advice for those women; he will HATE you once he realizes what you’ve done. When he is sitting there reminiscing about all the goals and dreams that he wanted to pursue, but never got a chance to.
On the flip side, I can sometime understand the reasoning for wanting to kill their dreams. If you think it’s pointless or if he won’t make any money or his talents are lacking in a certain area or field whatever the case maybe, let him figure that out for himself. A lot of women feed their men negative information about their dreams, and try to speed along the realization process. That is not the same thing as him figuring it out on his own. That is cheating ladies. Subliminal messages and other types of psychology is the same thing. You’re killing his dreams either way.
As long as he is not putting his health in jeopardy, why can’t he do whatever he wants? Men are known as being the more hands-on gender; they always have projects and other shit going on. Women, well, we tend to plan things out a lot more, especially when it comes to our futures. We want to make sure everything is taken care of, and if his “silly” dream gets in the way of our future plans, we are quick to squash it.
Women’s roles in history were to be supportive of our men, because they were the bread winners. And now that women have flipped it, over time we are more of the bread winners, we wear the pants in the house, in many cases. Regardless of how much money you make, you have to let your man be the
I am all about letting people be themselves and do what they want with their lives. I would hate it if my man told me I could never write again. I would rather die, than loose my dreams. Even if I’m not making money, I will always write. Think about the thing that you’ve always wanted to do, and thing think about never being able to do it again. Whether or not you’re a business woman or an artist, if your job is something that you love, imagine if your man told you to quit or squashed your dreams.
In many cases a man’s dreams is all he has, I mean besides you of course. I understand if you are afraid of becoming second to his dream, but you have to trust your man and allow him to do whatever it is that makes him happy. Be supportive and be there for him. Don’t taunt him if things don’t work out because as I said before he will resent you for it sooner or later. The best thing to do is occupy your time when he is busy working one whatever it is he wants to do.
When my boyfriend is working on music, I write, I exercise, I go out with friends, I watch a movie, and I do whatever I have to do in order to give him his time. Your man will appreciate you so much more if you do these things for him. Not only does he get to have time to himself, which is hard when you’re living with someone, but he also gives me my space and time. We avoid a lot of arguments by comprising with one another.
It may come as a surprise to you that women are known for killing women’s dreams, but I talk to a lot of guys, and we do have that reputation. Men talk just as much as women do, and I know you don’t have to have a bad reputation among your man’s friends, or do you?
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I am lucky enough to have a woman who supports mys dreams and goals, even if they seem to be distant and hard to reach/achieve. Many people I know don't. And yes, woman do have that reputation. Whenever the boys are out, someone gets clowned that 'oh your girl won't let you do this' or he stopped _______ cause his girl thinks he'll never make money doin that'....
Here Here, I'm in the midst of a divorce because I was with a dream killer and a hater. And other reasons too. I don't even think she realized it frankly. I don't hate her or anything like that but I think that guys shouldn't get seriously involved with anyone until they reach their dream because one day you wake up at 40 years old, a wife and 3 kids wondering what happened to my life and my dreams.
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