The Black Family

Recently I have been debating going back to school for a sociology degree. I want to focus on the black family. This blog seems like a good place to start my research and get some ideas out there. Starting with my own family is the perfect example for me as well. I am not exactly sure how these things go, but I know that I took plenty of classes while obtaining my Journalism degree, to know something about the black family. Besides just being black myself, I learned how slavery broke down the black family's dynamic. I also took classes on the black male, the black child and the black female. All of whom play a major role in the black family. It is interesting to me why there are so many disparities between black people's income, jobs and family involvement. We are most definitely the ultimate extremes.

You have the successful black man who is out there working, he has a great job, making probably $100,000 a year or more. This man has a wife, a beautiful black queen, 2.5 children and they have a house with a white picket fence. The whole nine yards. He is living the American Dream. And then you have the black man who has nine children, all from different women, no wife, no job and he can barely take care of himself. He is sleeping on different people's couches, and has no idea where is children are. How can there be such a huge gap between the two of them?

In the Hispanic or Latin families, many of them are in the same situation. Asians, Jewish families, all the same. I know that each family has their own problem children, who will never move out of their parents house, but for the most part other nationalities do not have such a huge disparity between families. How can people who were for the most part raised in the same household come out so different? There are many factors that can determine how this happened. I would like to study these factors and family members to better understand. The easiest way for me to do this is to break down each person in my own family. I can only start by studying my own, and then work on studying others.

In addition to my research and recordings being listed here, I am also working on many other things. I may not be able to update this blog as frequently as I would like. I will just briefly tell you, I am getting married this August, I am working on a book, and I am working on my Dear Daddy letters. If you need more information about the book, and my letter writing, you can view previous blogs where I have talked about this.

Let me start by recording, based solely on memory, what I have learned about the black family. We have been broken down to nothing. During slavery when the black men was separately by his wife and children to work for another man, a white man, he could no longer provide for his family. He began working for the white family. His sole purpose was to provide for the white family, and not for his own anymore. Some men take this to heart, and believe they should not work for any white man ever, hence the huge unemployment rate among black men nowadays.

Secondly, during slavery, the black men had to deal with his wife, his queen, his prized possession being raped and beaten by the white man. Imagine the one you love being taken from you and forced to fuck another man. That broke the black man down even more. Not only did he have to provide for a family who was not his own, now he has to deal with his wife being soiled by another man. All of the power is now in the white man's hands. The men that took this to heart have since turned to other men for sex and love or they have taken a white woman for themselves. This has left many black women searching for love, and for the ones who would like to marry a black men, no dice. Hence the huge number of unmarried black women nowadays.

Lastly, the black child, he now does not have a black male role model since his father has been taken away from him. He has no place to turn. His role models include the uneducated, the slave masters who do not look like him, and himself. The most important person in any family is first the father. Men do not realize how strong and important their roles are in the family dynamic. Without the proper family male role model, these young black men do not know where to turn. They view the white man who is raping their women as the powerful men they should be. Hence the men who sleep around, are not fathers to their children, and the greedy power hungry black men of nowadays.

These are just a few of the things that have kept our people down. And even though we have a black president, our people as a whole are not surviving as well as we should be.


~ JB